Our Eyes Are The Way To Our Soul

"Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical" - Sophia Loren

I see it every day, those eye looking for something better, dark, lost not knowing where to go next?

Some of these people are my clients, some are family members or friends, you see our eyes just like our body language, give us away every time. Our eyes do not lie to us and they always say more than what we could ever put into words.


Many studies have indicated that when we meet someone for the first time, our eyes can convey a wide range of feelings: trust or distrust, fear, happiness, joy, etc. we know this to be true as we do it every day, its like transcending into the depths of their body and reaching their soul through their eyes.


Our pupils have a mind of their own and will dilate involuntarily when you like someone and contract when you don’t.

How often are we actually looking into other people eye’s anymore? I have notice a rapid growth around non eye contact with people. We know it’s got a lot to do with our phones, social media. Yet many people are finding it difficult to actually look into each other’s eyes and convey messages from one person to another. We are becoming less social in a human to human form and more socialised in a non-real way on social media.

Looking into each other’s eyes is innate in us all, it helps with nonverbal communication and it’s important for us and our children.

I have made a strong point over these last 3 years to keep eye contact with my son, I want him to be able to learn nonverbal communication and see love and trust depicted into each other’s eyes. I have even found when he is in the midst of a tantrum, getting to his level and talking with eye contact can help, not straight away, however when he reaches out for me and needs that security we always meet eyes. He know it’s safe to have big feelings as my nonverbal eyes are there to support and help him.


Your eyes can convey many feelings, like

  • Happiness – bright shiny eyes
  • Attention – open eyes with a penetrative stare
  • Sadness – your eyelids are usually raised as does the lower edge of the eyebrow, you seem to have lack lustre to the eyes and can appear teary.
  • Anger – we usually frown and arch our eyebrows and our eyes seem to pop out a little more.
  • Not sure – half closed eyes can indicate being not sure
  • Thinking – squinting our eyes
  • Sexually charged – our pupils dilate.


People usually say ‘your eyes are the window to your soul’ where does this term come from?

From what research I have found it states that the origin was in the bible 58 to 68 A.D. Matthew 6 22-23 (king James Version)

22 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye to be single, they whole body shall be full of light.

23 But if thine eye be evil, they whole body shall be full of darkness, If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness!

However there is a proverb that is known from much earlier. The great Roman philosopher Cicero 9106-43 B.C.) Is quoted as saying, “Ut imago est animi voltus sic indices oculi’ which is usually translated into ‘The eye is the lamp of the body if your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if the eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness how great is that darkness!


"The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides" - Audrey Hepburn

So when the last time you looked into your eyes in the mirror? Really looked into your own eyes and gave love and gratitude back to the person who is looking back at you. Mirror work for self-awareness is an amazing thing to do for yourself, it helps you to reconnect with you and it helps you to see the beauty in you. When we gaze into our own eye, we truly can see the loving person looking back. With no judgement place your hand on your heart and the other hand on the heart in the mirror and say ‘I love you, you are wonderful and I am so grateful for you’. Try this for a week and watch that reparked of your own soul come to life again.

When was the last time you sat down with your partner and really looked into each other’s eyes lovingly, with gratitude and compassion? When we do this we are reconnecting into each other and surprisingly you can rekindle that sparkle again. Why not look deep into each other’s eyes and say you love your partner.


All in all scientists have observed patterns n the iris can give an indication of whether we are warm and trusting or neurotic and impulsive, so why not focus on the positive and start developing yourself and the people around you to have a better relationship through eye contact. We have been using this form of nonverbal contact for years and it is healthy for us humans, so get of your phones and go and talk to someone giving them warm gratitude and see who your day goes.


Much love and light to you.